Behavioral patterns will always speak louder than anything you ever have to say.

It’s more than the action being louder than the words… it’s the collection of actions or reactions to the same or similar situations time after time that tell us what we need to know.

It’s not an easy pill to swallow when you’re the only one noticing it. When you find yourself seeing what someone else has yet to recognize or accept, it’s a sign that you’re repeating your own habit of seeing the potential in someone more than you see the reality of what’s in front of you.

But that’s okay. That just means you love big and that’s nothing to be ashamed of but it’s time to stop repeating it.

And I’m here to remind you that walking away or distancing yourself isn’t selfish. It’s not heartless or rude or unloving. It’s actually the exact opposite.

Choosing to remove yourself from someone’s pattern actions may just be the eye opener they need to make the change… and maybe it won’t, but either way it absolutely is an act of loving yourself and choosing only meaningful connections, not lukewarm ones.

Be the change